My wife and I are separated. She moved out 2 months ago and wants nothing to do with me. I have tried reaching out. I dont cheat or abuse her. Just normal marital problems.
She is in Dallas on school break and is staying with her girlfriends and having a ball and not wanting to even talk to me.
Last friday she got rear ended and the car over heated. I was concerened and called 2 times aday and text twice each day to check up on her. Monday she said ” I told you before i need space , so stop texting and calling me im okay……you dont respect that i need space….” I didnt respond to this madness.
Wednesday she text me saying she just came from the doctor and he said she needed 2 months of Chiropractic care. I responded hours later with ” Im sorry. Hope all goes well. Let me know”. I didnt want to say more that required least im told to stop blowing her phone again.
Next day she is texting asking if ive gone to post office. I responded ” yes” hours later. Then she texts me thanking me and asking if i could leave the mail in the post office box so she could find it there when she returned next week. I responded a simple ” k”.
Today she has text me saying the car shop says the car is written off.
Hours later i text back asking ” so insurance will get you a new car”
She immediately responded saying that insuarnce has to pay Titlemax what was owed on the car( for a loan taken out against it) and then estimate its worth and give her that. Which might not be much. It was a beautiful truck with tinted windows but was over ten years old.
I havent responded back as to wheather she needs a ride back ( 5 hrs away) to our little town from Dallas this sunday or not.
I sense a little humbling. What do you think?
#1 by AmBeautiful on July 18th, 2011
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I don’t know about that, I do know that you should continue not calling her. She will appreciate you and not need so much “space” shortly.
#2 by Marie K on July 18th, 2011
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How neutral can you be in that question, and the 5 hour ride?
I would try to match her emotional level or you will just get dumped again and again.
#3 by littleprincess on July 18th, 2011
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shame on her.. that is not right one bit.. heck cut her loose and you go out have fun in life..if you do and once you learn that she will be the one doing the calling..
#4 by chebrew2000 on July 18th, 2011
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She’s softening you up. She’s going to ask you to pay for a new car or make up the difference from the insurance company. Give her space–and no money.
#5 by Eric on July 18th, 2011
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No, she’s just desperate and doesn’t have any other options than relying on you, so she’s going to use you for what she can, then go back to telling you to leave her alone. I think that if you are purposefully jerking her around with your texts that you should stop trying to play a game with her head to manipulating her into relying on you. Sure her luck sucks, but thats part of what she’ll have to deal with as a single person – not having someone else to lean on. Considering you are separated, how she gets back to your town from Dallas is her problem, not yours. She can take a greyhound bus or get someone else to drive her.
#6 by Mike on July 18th, 2011
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Lose her, and find a new woman; she sounds like trouble to me.
#7 by Wendy on July 18th, 2011
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Im not to sure why you feel the need to be a doormat but whatever…She says and thinks she can do this on her own..then let her!
#8 by Humberto G on July 18th, 2011
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You do not want her to be humbled, that is a temporary feeling, you want her to respect you. I think that you need to control your impulse to chase that which is running away from you. I think that you should just let her know that you are there if she needs you but you need her to reach out to you. I think that you need to build yourself up a little more and expect better treatment unless you want to lose her love and her respect. It seems obvious that she needs some time away from you – it could be something as simple as she needs some “me time” or that you are too enveloping. If I were you, I would look to strengthen my bonds with my friends – establish a poker night, go hunting/fishing. Whatever you do, do something that will get you out of the house more. Being around too much sometimes wears down a person. In any case, don’t be the kid that chases his mommy all around the house looking for attention. Play by yourself a little, make better friends and let her be.
#9 by Lorena is ready to Bob-It on July 18th, 2011
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I think you should forget her. She has no respect for you, and doesn’t seem to want to have anything with you.